Picture yourself as a child and you are back at school. (For me that was about twenty years ago) Perhaps you're picturing yourself at recess or maybe in your daily PE class, and you can still hear the whistle as your gym coach steps into the gym through those thick double wood doors. He cups his hands over his mouth and yells “Dodge ball today, lets get lined up!”
Kids are lining up against the wall, one by one putting themselves “out there” each thinking the same thing “pick me, pick me… help me to feel special.”

First there is Jimmy –a happy looking kid with a big smile maybe thinking about his plans for the day- Mom and Dad taking him to his soccer game, biking etc
Then let’s take a look at Jake- a forced smile, head downturned & tired, perhaps thinking about getting home and making himself a snack and watching his favorite TV show.
- But today we are not looking at a regular walls and school is out.
Jimmy is now presenting himself proudly against the wall. Jimmy hears his Moms voice say “C’mon Jimmy, time to go to kick a goal”. Jimmy grabs his cleats and as he turns off his computer he smiles as he notices he has four new friend requests. He will get to them tomorrow. This afternoon he is planning on kicking a winning field goal.
Jake hears the phone ring in the next room and is too tired to get up and decides it does not matter. He knows it his Mom calling to say that she will have to work a double shift again so he stays positioned in front of the TV screen. Jake hesitantly puts himself in front of the wall again in hopes that today he will be “picked”. He stands alone with no one paying attention to his wall. Jimmy does not even bother to check the computer he has not been picked so many times and after requesting 28 friends this week no one has yet to “pick” him back.
2009 is similar to my twenty or so years ago whereas being at home and school fills up most of the hours in a kid’s day, but there are dynamics that are quite a bit different. Children don’t usually go home to their neighborhood and carry a ball to their friend’s house down the street to play a friendly game or build tree houses in the woods behind their homes. These days’ kids go home and a lot of times Mom and Dad are not home and they turn on the TV, grab a snack or grab a computer mouse to stay connected to their friends and schoolmates.
Today it is not so much about the clothes kids wear it is also about a competitive spirit. This is what makes people move forward and become successful. This includes being above average in personality, academics and in physical attributes. Possessing a competitive spirit takes years of positive encouragement by family and friends. It takes time and in today’s society time is not always on the side of a family unit. Children in about half of households are making the decisions on their own for their daily activities and the food they eat. Kids are managing their own lifestyle without the guidance of parents. It has become a usual standard in today’s one parent or two parent working household. The cost of living and the double whammy of today’s economy is forcing parents to leave their kids to bring up themselves and take on responsibilities that are usually set aside for adults.
We all can see pretty clearly how this is contributing negatively to the health of our youth. We have kids lacking support in many emotional ways. We see a lot of Jakes compounded emotionally by not only having to live up to the standards at the wall at school but also by the virtual wall 24 hours a day. All of this without having the proper emotional support to mold and teach them how to eat properly, strive academically and get enough activity in a day.
What are kids supposed to look like nowadays? It is almost easier to fit in with the growing “normalcy” of being overweight. It is too much work to live up to the ideal without the support that children are lacking from the two places they spend 90% of their time at, home and school. Children spend at least 35 hours a week at school. Twenty years ago kids spent on average of 4 and half hours in PE class and in active recess. These days’ kids are spending on average 40 minutes a week in a physical activity during school hours. We should be adding more to the physical movement and support at school as the world forces families to spend less time on this together at home. Instead we decide to cut programs and leave it up to our youth to decide whether they will get exercise or not. Sadly most are not and it is molding our children to be unhealthy adults with medical issues, lower than average test scores and low self esteem.
We are now amongst a group of people who have stayed committed to create change. They have pushed through and are asking for your help to turn this around. Pay attention to the Fit Kids Act that is being reintroduced to Congress. The FIT Kids Act is a bill that would include involvement by both parents and the public in promoting healthy, physically active lifestyles. The bill would require school districts to report on physical education and would also provide health and physical education training to teachers. The bill would also fund research to examine the link between children’s health and academic achievement, as well as fund research into ways to further combat obesity.
Whether you have a child or not you can contribute in the change needed to turn this epidemic around. We naturally gravitate towards children who are already proving to possess that “competitive, happy spirit”. These kids are easy to talk to and to spend time with but next time you see a Jimmy and Jake at an event or in the neighborhood try to throw Jake the ball first, he needs the most help. He needs the extra support. We need to step in and give a hand up even a smile to let them know that they are equal and worthy of striving for what Jimmy has. We have moms and dads each working a job, sometimes two. Jake should not be punished for this; we should reach out to support him especially where he is lacking basic physical needs.
Today’s kids have so many expectations to live up to and comparison does not end for them at school time. Children are putting themselves out there for either being accepted or feeling rejected twenty-four hours a day via school and online. At least when we were kids we had that “safe” place of non-judgment when the sun went down…Mom calling us in for dinner and we were at home with our families whereas for most of us we were all number one in their eyes. It is crucial today for us to band together and help the “Jakes” in this world have a chance at feeling like number one. Especially when it is forced upon families to prioritize work in order to care for the family’s basic needs.